Wednesday, January 18, 2017

Young adults not looking forward to 'when is your turn to marry?'

Source Website: http://women.asiaone.com/women/relationships/young-adults-not-looking-forward-when-your-turn-marry
By Michelle Wong and Natalie Young, The Star/ANN, Wednesday, 18 January 2017


For these young men and women, it is the time when they brace themselves for well-meaning relatives to pop the question: When are you getting married?
PHOTO: For these young men and women, it is the time when they brace themselves for well-meaning relatives to pop the question: When are you getting married?
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PETALING JAYA - Being a single adult doing the Chinese New Year rounds can be tough.

For these young men and women, it is the time when they brace themselves for well-meaning relatives to pop the question: When are you getting married?

Or the joke: Make this the last time I am giving you an ang pow (red packets of money given by married people to children and the unmarried).

Medical student Sarah Tai, 25, said there was nothing she dreaded more than "the question", especially during family reunions or when meeting up with relatives during the festive season.



These unfortunate young men and women, it is the dreadful time when they brace themselves for well-meaning relatives to pop the question: When are you getting married?
PHOTO: These unfortunate young men and women, it is the dreadful time when they brace themselves for well-meaning relatives to pop the question: When are you getting married?
"A tremendous source of embarrassment and torture, but what can you do? Pretend to smile and answer something to satisfy the ego of the 'elite' class. Whatever you do, you will still be the trash of the day. At least garbage can be found by rodents but not you. You are 'things that nobody wants'. That is an experience of life, and the whole world is just waiting to enjoy how you cringe and scrimp to save yourself. Can you escape a bullet? Once the shot is fired at you, confirm you are the casualty.
While the whole world is being entertained, our Creator will empathise with you. Take heart and turn to Him for comfort and all other things. All of us are created by the Creator, but not all our actions are legitimate. Those are contributions that make us imperfect.
" - Anon
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Although it frustrated her, Tai said she would still answer it truthfully out of respect for her elders.

But while Tai is not buckling under pressure to start dating just to avoid the "annoying" questions, 28-year-old engineer Bruno Fong is already feeling the heat.

"My twin sister recently got hitched and I desperately want to avoid the when-is-your-turn question to the point that I don't want to go back to my parents' hometown," he said.



Sure, it gets lonely. I mean, why on earth are these people hugging and kissing and cuddling in front of me? Yes, I understand. It could get lonely. You can say that it has been so long since someone held your hand or looked straight into your eyes and just tell you you’re beautiful and that they love you.
PHOTO: "Sure, it gets lonely. I mean, why on earth are these people hugging and kissing and cuddling in front of me? Yes, I understand. It could get lonely.
You can say that it has been so long since someone held your hand or looked straight into your eyes and just tell you you’re beautiful and that they love you.
" Or nobody ever did. uhmmm, uhhh, uhhh… - from a secretly angry single girl, http://thoughtcatalog.com/mary-elizabeth-francisco/2015/04/the-advantages-of-being-single-that-girls-in-relationships-dont-realize/
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Meanwhile, across the Causeway, Singaporean singles are already one step ahead of their "curious" relatives.

In the city-state, there is a growing trend of renting fake boyfriends or girlfriends as Chinese New Year dates, just as their counterparts in China have been known to do in recent years.

Pally Asia, an online-based "rent-a-friend" service provider operating in Singapore, Jakarta and Bangkok, said it is expecting a surge of requests from singles this Chinese New Year.

"There was an increase of requests during the last Christmas season and the same is expected in the coming weeks," a Pally Asia representative said when contacted.



There is a growing trend of renting fake boyfriends or girlfriends as Chinese New Year dates, just as their counterparts in China have been known to do in recent years.
PHOTO: There is a growing trend of renting fake boyfriends or girlfriends as Chinese New Year dates, just as their counterparts in China have been known to do in recent years.
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According to its website, its escorts, aptly called "Pallies", can be booked online starting from S$250 (about RM780) for two hours.

"The most popular package would be the 'Be My Partner' experience, where clients can hire Pallies as their 'boyfriends' or 'girlfriends' to dissuade inquisitive aunties from asking the usual 'how come still single ah?' question," the company said.



Hire 'boyfriends' or 'girlfriends' at your own risk. . . .
PHOTO: Hire 'boyfriends' or 'girlfriends' at your own risk. . . .
That elusive love could be your enemy, but the bible says love your enemy. When you indulge in these negative emotions you are giving something power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.
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By Michelle Wong and Natalie Young, The Star/ANN, Wednesday, 18 January 2017


Wish list
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Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Expect superb views, diverse wildlife at new Bird Park

Source Website: http://www.tnp.sg/news/singapore/expect-superb-views-diverse-wildlife-new-bird-park
By Audrey Tan, The Straits Times, 17 January 2017 at 06:00 am


Details revealed about new Bird Park and Rainforest Park as construction phase is launched.
PHOTO: Details revealed about new Bird Park and Rainforest Park as construction phase is launched. In about three years, birdwatchers can enjoy watching feathered fowl from the rainforests of Africa, the flooded savannahs of South and Central America and the Australian bushland, all in Singapore.
Artist's impression of wetlands in the Mandai Park project. (Image: Mandai Park Holdings)
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In about three years, birdwatchers can enjoy watching feathered fowl from the rainforests of Africa, the flooded savannahs of South and Central America and the Australian bushland, all in Singapore.

They need only to pay a visit to the new Bird Park in Mandai, when the park, relocated from its current premises in Jurong, opens its doors to the public.

The new park will allow visitors to be immersed in multiple landscapes and vegetation so that they can see the birds just as they would in the wild. The birds will also be flying freely in large aviaries within the new park, a move that will heighten the experience for visitors.



Masterplan of the Mandai rejuvenation project. (Image: Mandai Park Holdings)
PHOTO: Masterplan of the Mandai rejuvenation project. (Image: Mandai Park Holdings)
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HORNBILLS & PARROTS
Colourful birds of paradise, orange-beaked hornbills and vocal parrots are some of the birds that will be part of the avian collection, which is one of the most significant to date.

These details were given by developer Mandai Park Holdings yesterday during a ceremony to celebrate the start of the development work on the hub of the five wildlife parks it is building in leafy Mandai.

Mr S. Iswaran, Minister for Trade and Industry (Industry), was the guest of honour.

The Bird Park, as well as a new Rainforest Park, will join the existing trio of attractions there - the Singapore Zoo, River Safari and Night Safari.



Masterplan of the Mandai rejuvenation project. (Image: Mandai Park Holdings)
PHOTO: Masterplan of the Mandai rejuvenation project. (Image: Mandai Park Holdings)
The Mandai rejuvenation project will see the relocation of Jurong Bird Park and the development of a new Rainforest Park in the same area as the Singapore Zoo, Night Safari and River Safari. Currently, the four parks attract about 4.6 million visitors each year.
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The hub, which will also include accommodation options, is expected to fully commence operations by 2023, with earlier phases, including the opening of the Bird Park, to be done by 2020.

The Bird Park, Singapore Zoo, River Safari and Night Safari offer visitors the experience of walking through habitats from all over the world. But at the Rainforest Park, the focus will be on South-east Asian biodiversity.

Animals that live in rainforests - from below the ground to the tree canopies - will have their time in the spotlight.

The park will take visitors on a journey from an underground cavern to boardwalks at the ground level and up ramps to aerial walkways that reach the tree canopies, where they can interact with arboreal apes.

There will also be trekking and adventure activities at the new park.

"We plan to offer highly differentiated experiences at each of our five wildlife parks, augmented by indoor displays and a variety of food and beverage offerings," said Mr Mike Barclay, chief executive of Mandai Park Holdings.



One of the key attractions at the new Bird Park will be an underwater and 'overwater' habitat for sub-Antarctic penguins.
PHOTO: One of the key attractions at the new Bird Park will be an underwater and "overwater" habitat for sub-Antarctic penguins. The developer said it would provide visitors a "fly with the penguins" experience - one that creates the impression of penguins "flying" through the water.
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The massive Mandai makeover will include public spaces, such as green landscaped decks for picnics and boardwalks along the edge of Upper Seletar Reservoir, which can be used by the public free of charge.

These plans, as well as the results from an Environmental Impact Assessment, have been approved by the Government.

"Reviews and discussions on Mandai's rejuvenation have been going on for several years with various stakeholders. With the necessary government approvals now obtained, we are delighted to mark this milestones with our partners today," said Mandai Park Holdings chairman S. Dhanabalan.

The Mandai area sits right outside the Central Catchment Nature Reserve, and nature groups had voiced concerns that development works could negatively impact the wildlife.



SUSTAINABILITY THE KEY GUIDELINE
PHOTO: SUSTAINABILITY THE KEY GUIDELINE
Visitors to the new Bird Park and the Rainforest Park will arrive from the precinct's west entrance - one of the two "arrival nodes" to the precinct.
The other entrance - from the east - will provide access to nature-themed indoor attractions, as well as the zoo, the Night Safari and River Safari. It will also house accommodation options.
The entrances will be connected by walking trails and boardwalks along Upper Seletar Reservoir.
The separate entry points were created to reduce the impact of visitors passing through a single entrance next to the Central Catchment Nature Reserve.
Mr Barclay
, Mandai Park Holdings’ chief executive officer said a key guideline for the massive development is sustainability and the idea is to look at using the right materials and harvesting new energy sources.
If you have a waterfall, it creates a lot of energy. Can we harvest that energy and put it back in to offset the energy being used to power the pumps? We have lots of opportunities for solar power as well within the parks,” he said.
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But Mandai Park Holdings stressed that the development will be done sensitively. For one, the development will take place on degraded land.

It also voluntarily commissioned an Environment Impact Assessment, following which changes were made to development plans.

One of the most significant is the swopping of locations of the new Rainforest Park and Bird Park - this puts the bulk of the Rainforest Park to the north, instead of the south of Mandai Lake Road, where there are more mature trees that can be incorporated into the park.

It also agreed to have a vegetated buffer area between the park boundaries and the nature reserve, ensuring that the development will not go right up to the fringes of the reserve.



NEW RAINFOREST PARK
PHOTO: NEW RAINFOREST PARK
Another highlight, the Rainforest Park, will take visitors through the biodiversity found in Southeast Asian foliage, and allow them to see the trees from recreated caverns, a boardwalk and an aerial walkway.

You could be at the tree-top level with the orangutans climbing the trees around you. I think it’s a very exciting concept and that’s why we want the different layering of the parks,” said Mr Barclay, Mandai Park Holdings’ chief executive officer.

The Rainforest Park is expected to be ready by the end of 2021, earlier than the 2023 completion date previously announced.
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By Audrey Tan, The Straits Times, 17 January 2017 at 06:00 am



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Monday, January 16, 2017

Straight As? But making grade in doing good is vital too

Source Website: http://news.asiaone.com/news/asian-opinions/straight-making-grade-doing-good-vital-too
By Tee Hun Ching, hunching@sph.com.sg, The Straits Times, Monday, 16 January 2017


Going by the past two weeks, my son has shown that even if he doesn't do well, he can at least aim to do good.
PHOTO: Going by the past two weeks, my son has shown that even if he doesn't do well, he can at least aim to do good. That, surely, is a worthy New Year resolution I should adopt too.
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Ahead of the new year, I buckled and signed my son up for Chinese tuition.

I had been holding out against extra lessons because I wanted to keep as many of his afternoons free from school stuff for as long as I could.

But the strain was showing.



Use the knowledge of others
PHOTO: Use the knowledge of others.
We don’t mean cheat…. when we say use the knowledge of others, what we mean is that you should talk with friends, family members and teachers about the subjects you are studying. Get their opinions on topics, see how they would have approached a problem or learn their method of doing something. In opening your mind to new ways of thinking and doing you should be better prepared to handle almost any academic challenge.
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With his anaemic vocabulary and fractured grammar, he toiled over compositions and stumbled over comprehension passages.

The child we had raised to speak Mandarin at home now struggles to string together complete sentences in our mother tongue, much to our embarrassment.

I decided on early intervention when told to expect a jump in the level of difficulty now that he is in Primary 4.

On top of that, a friend whose son is in Primary 6 in the same school had warned that this will be a crucial year.

The boys will be assigned to classes next year based mainly on their maths and science grades, she said, and the best resources are said to be devoted to the top class.



The boys will be assigned to classes in primary 4 based mainly on their maths and science grades.
PHOTO: The boys will be assigned to classes in primary 4 based mainly on their maths and science grades. The best resources are said to be devoted to the top class.
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I don't expect my son to make it to the best class, but I sure hope he doesn't fall too far behind either.

I wondered whether I should be thinking about science enrichment too.

So as 2017 dawned, academic goals weighed heavily on my mind.

But rusty and lazy after the six-week, year-end break, my son came home frothing with indignation when his class was assigned homework on the second day of school.

I snapped and told him to suck it up.

"The honeymoon phase is over. You are now in upper primary."

"Act your age."

Three years after he started school, I am still wringing my hands over the same thing: his lackadaisical attitude towards learning.



Working Hard At Home
PHOTO: Working Hard At Home
It is important to remain motivated and motivate the child to do the homework. Homework helps to reinforce what  have been learned in class and identify what is not understood.
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It took a friend to alert me to another side of him worth celebrating.

Just like how it is done in many other schools, the Primary 4 pupils were paired with those in Primary 1 on the first three days of school to guide the newbies during recess and help ease them into the new environment.

A friend sent us a shot of her son, K, with ours on the first day.

Our boy had asked a classmate to swop their young charges so he could be K's buddy, she said.

Our sons had met several times at our social gatherings but weren't what you would call firm friends.

"I'm so grateful," my friend added in her text message.

"K was very nervous so having your son as a buddy really helped."

My husband and I were pleasantly surprised.



The first few days in a Primary School can be a daunting experience for both parents and children.
PHOTO: The first few days in a Primary School can be a daunting experience for both parents and children. The environment is vastly different from pre-school and may be a culture shock. Parents may also worry about how their children are settling into a new environment. To help new students, primary schools often have buddy systems, pairing older students with Primary One schoolmates.
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My friend didn't know this but our son had baulked at our suggestion for him to take care of K before school started.

The reluctance stemmed from some childish misunderstanding that arose when K came to our house a few years ago.

I never quite figured out the exact details but it had something to do with K playing with some toys that my son didn't want him to touch.

We were miffed that he could stay sore at someone for so long over something so trivial.

"K was so young then. He probably didn't even know he had upset you. Why are you so petty?" I said in exasperation.

"I don't care. I'm not going to do it," my son retorted, his face a sullen mask.

Our lectures fell on deaf ears - or so we thought.

Not only did he volunteer to be K's recess buddy, we heard later that he also showed K around the school.



The awesome buddy system
PHOTO: The awesome buddy system
Miranda Tay (right) was a buddy to young Marcie Chew (left) during the younger girl’s her first days at Rulang Primary School.
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When his chaperone services were no longer needed after the first three days, he still looked for opportunities to swing by K's class during recess or after school to see how his young friend was doing.

We were proud of him not just because he had displayed a caring side that wasn't often apparent.

We were moved that he managed to overcome his self-centred tendencies, cast aside his petty grievances and choose to be caring towards someone he once had little affection for.

Then a week into the new school year, I found a note in my daughter's pencil case left by her brother.

I'd heard him telling her to "check your pencil case" during the first few days of school but didn't probe when he refused to tell me what he meant.

"Don't show Mama," he hissed at his sister, who entered Primary 1 this year.

It turned out he had written a few notes to ease her jitters.

The one I read, meant for her second day in school, was both encouraging and instructive.

"Don't be scared because Mama and Papa will not be at your school," it went.

"In school, be curious, raise your hand and ask questions, because that is an important way to learn."

I almost had to wipe away a tear or two.

This was from a boy who is still mean to his sister more often than he is nice.

"I didn't know you could be so sweet," I told him later.

"It's only for the first three days," he replied swiftly, lest I thought he was morphing into the world's best bro.



A new path: children need certain basic skills before going to primary school.
PHOTO: A new path: children need certain basic skills before going to primary school. The use the toilet, how to  ask for help and enjoy learning.
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My son's gradual transformation reminds me of an e-mail that caught my eye amid the flurry of news alerts and Web links on New Year resolutions that landed in my inbox as Jan 1 came and went.

Headlined "What Really Matters in 2017", the reflection advised devoting more energy to building our "eulogy virtues" rather than burnishing our "resume virtues".

These are terms that New York Times op-ed columnist David Brooks discussed in his 2015 book, The Road To Character.

Resume virtues are the skills that make us marketable and contribute to external success, while eulogy virtues are the traits that people talk about at our funerals - the stuff that really matters in the end.

Did we show integrity? Were we kind? Did we make an iota of difference to anyone's life?

Brooks argues that while we all know eulogy virtues are more important than the resume ones, most of us are still more bent on building a career and veneer of success than forging inner character.

It seems we adopt the same mindset when it comes to parenting too.

In one of its studies, a project under the Harvard Graduate School of Education found that personal success, such as achievement and happiness, takes priority over concern for others among today's youth.

This, the researchers concluded, reflected what the young believe adults value.

About two-thirds of those polled reported that their parents would rank achievement above caring for others.

Expanding his eulogy virtues doesn't mean I will stop worrying about my son's grades or pushing him to work hard.

But it does mean I have to get my priorities right. Any achievement will count for little if he is not anchored by strong core values.

Going by the past two weeks, my son has shown that even if he doesn't do well, he can at least aim to do good.

That, surely, is a worthy New Year resolution I should adopt too.

By Tee Hun Ching, hunching@sph.com.sg, The Straits Times, Monday, 16 January 2017


About two-thirds of those polled reported that their parents would rank achievement above caring for others.
PHOTO: About two-thirds of those polled reported that their parents would rank achievement above caring for others. In one of its studies, a project under the Harvard Graduate School of Education found that personal success, such as achievement and happiness, takes priority over concern for others among today's youth. Students should do well in their studies and aim to do good.
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Sunday, January 15, 2017

Why waking up early is good for you

Source Website: http://health.asiaone.com/health/body-mind/why-waking-early-good-you
By Zarelda Marie Goh, SHAPE Singapore, Friday, 13 January 2017


Waking up early is good for you.
PHOTO: Waking up early has benefits for the body. These mind and body benefits might just motivate you to hop out of bed. But there must be a proper sleeping pattern. Not sleeping enough affects multiple hormones related to metabolism, like the stress hormones.
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Do you hit the snooze button till you absolutely have to get ready for work? These mind and body benefits might just motivate you to hop out of bed.

1. Morning people are more proactive
Researchers in Germany found that early risers are able to solve problems more effectively than night owls. They are good at identifying issues and nipping them in the bud before they escalate into something bigger.



Morning people are more proactive

PHOTO: Morning people are more proactive
Having more time certainly means lesser stress and our mind can think of solutions to problem which otherwise may not be possible. When a difficult problem is solved, we become more enthusiastic and are able to tackle other problems more comfortably. Researchers in Germany found that early risers are able to solve problems more effectively than night owls. One problem less means lesser stress and more satisfaction as we become more effective in our work.
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2. Morning people are more productive
Many successful people rise at dawn and get a gazillion things done each day. These include outgoing US President Barack Obama, the late Apple CEO Steve Jobs and Editor-In-Chief of US Vogue Anna Wintour.

While we can't guarantee that waking up early will lead to a thriving career, we can be certain that you'll get more done every day, be it at work or at home.



Morning people are more productive

PHOTO: Morning people are more productive
Waking up early can get more done every day, be it at work or at home. Many successful people rise at dawn and get a gazillion things done each day.
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3. Morning people are more relaxed
A study at the University of London found that those who woke at by 7am were less depressed, anxious and overweight than those who slept in till later. Given that we live in such a fast-paced society, keeping your stress level in check is definitely good for your health overall.



Morning people are more relaxed

PHOTO: Morning people are more relaxed
A study at the University of London found that those who woke at by 7am were less depressed, anxious and overweight than those who slept in till later. This means better for the overall health.
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4. Morning people get higher-quality slumber
This benefit kicks in only if you sleep at the same time every night, and wake up at the same time too. Getting your mind and body into a regular pattern helps you rest better, hence increasing the quality of your shut-eye.



Morning people get higher-quality slumber

PHOTO: Morning people get higher-quality slumber
Schedules and routine: To get a good night's sleep, we need to organize our dream and do it responsibly. We must go to sleep at the same time each day and wake up at the same time, as much as possible. Getting the mind and body into a regular pattern helps to rest better, hence increasing the quality of sleep.
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5. Morning people are slimmer
Hit the gym and work up a sweat the first thing in the morning, and you're likely to boost your metabolism and burn more calories throughout the day. Even better, take your workout outside for increased benefits. Research shows that people who spent more time in morning light had lower BMIs than those who were in the dark, regardless of food intake and activity level.



Early morning exercises, activities and workout has increased benefits.

PHOTO: Morning people are slimmer
Early morning exercises, activities and workout has increased benefits. Our body metabolism are boosted and more calories burned throughout the day when we spent more time in morning light. BMI also improved regardless of food intake and activity level.
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By Zarelda Marie Goh, SHAPE Singapore, Friday, 13 January 2017
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